They Need More Time With You
Last Thursday night we invited parents to join us for a conversation about raising...TEENAGERS! Yes, it was not a conversation for the faint of heart. The facilitators shared from their experiences of raising five teens (wow!). Among the many great gifts of wisdom they offered, there was one that really stood out to me. It was a simple statement, but one that stuck: “Don’t let culture tell you that your teen doesn’t want to spend time with you.”
As someone that has worked with teens for 8+ years now, I couldn’t agree more. There is a myth that around middle school kids “break up” with their parents and only tolerate them for money and the taxi services they provide. While those are big priorities for teens, there is a need and a strong desire to be around mom and/or dad.
Behind the rolled eyes, slammed doors and blank stares is a developing young adult that knows they need more of what mom and dad have (and it’s not allowance.) What they need is for you to spend not money, but a quantity of quality time with them. Mom and dad have love for them, rich life experience and their best interest at heart. The best place to get those needs met is you.
A recent survey asked college age kids who they admired most. The number one answer wasn’t Obama or Coldplay or William and Kate; the number one answer was “my parent(s).”
If you want to talk more about parenting a teenager, feel free to contact me.
Nathan Head, Age Level Pastor